Ajay Nair
@ajay_nairJoined November 2025Verified parent
Parent of a 10-month-old in Pattom, Thiruvananthapuram.
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We stopped forcing hugs. Greeting can be a hello, namaste, wave or handshake. The child still learns courtesy without having to offer physical affection. Discussing it away from the children reduced the back-and-forth. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
0on Sibling preference in admissions: how reliable is it really?
I would keep at least two backup options until the admission is formally confirmed. Timelines can overlap and waiting for one school made us unnecessarily anxious.
This is useful, thank you. The practical detail is exactly what I was looking for. For us, the admission office answer and the parent answer were not always the same. I would still test it for a short period before making a long commitment.
2on Child understands science but loses marks in written answers — looking for recent parent experiences
We tried something similar once, but probably gave up too early. How long did you continue before judging it? We reviewed it again after one school term instead of deciding forever. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
0on Child behaves perfectly outside and melts down only at home
This is helpful for us too. Discussing it away from the children reduced the back-and-forth. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
8on Child behaves perfectly outside and melts down only at home
I try to respond to advice with 'we'll think about it' instead of debating in the moment. Then we make the decision privately. The rule became easier once all adults used the same answer. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
1on Grandparents and parents disagree on screen-time rules — how do you avoid daily arguments?
Could you share what you would do differently if you were starting again? Discussing it away from the children reduced the back-and-forth. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
1on Teen stays up late texting even after lights out — looking for recent parent experiences
Good point about asking for the details in writing. I had not thought of that. The rule worked better once adults followed the spirit of it too. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
0on Montessori till age 6 and then mainstream school — smooth transition?
This is close to what my spouse is suggesting too. I may have been overcomplicating it. For us, the admission office answer and the parent answer were not always the same. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
0on Teen stays up late texting even after lights out
Thank you. I like that this does not require changing everything at once. The rule worked better once adults followed the spirit of it too. I would still test it for a short period before making a long commitment.
1on Montessori till age 6 and then mainstream school — smooth transition?
I agree with this. Once we reduced the number of moving parts, everyone became calmer.
2on Montessori till age 6 and then mainstream school — smooth transition?
That makes sense. I think consistency is the part we are currently missing.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. The rule became easier once all adults used the same answer. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
Interesting — we had assumed the opposite. Helpful to hear a first-hand experience. The rule worked better once adults followed the spirit of it too. We made the change gradually rather than all at once.
1on Toddler will only sleep if one parent lies next to them
We tried something similar once, but probably gave up too early. How long did you continue before judging it? The first few days were definitely messier than the later ones. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
1on Competitive badminton at 10: when do you know it is more than a hobby?
Can I ask roughly what age/class your child was when you tried this? Batch size made a much bigger difference than we expected. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
0on Baby sleep in the same room: when did you stop reacting to every little noise?
I agree with this. Once we reduced the number of moving parts, everyone became calmer. The first month was much less predictable than we expected. I would still test it for a short period before making a long commitment.
If you can, line up practical help with food and laundry rather than only baby-holding help. That was much more useful in our first month.
9on Baby sleep in the same room: when did you stop reacting to every little noise?
Our routine only became predictable gradually. I wish someone had told us not to treat every difficult day as proof that we were doing something wrong. My spouse had a different view initially, so we tried it for a few weeks before deciding.
3on Reliable school van options around Porur — how do parents verify safety?
Our apartment parent group was more useful than public ratings because people could explain exactly what they liked and what age their child was. We changed our approach after about a month because the first plan was too hard to sustain.
4on Is a play school worth it at 2.5 if grandparents are at home — looking for recent parent experiences
We tried something similar once, but probably gave up too early. How long did you continue before judging it? The first few days were definitely messier than the later ones. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
1on Child understands science but loses marks in written answers — looking for recent parent experiences
That makes sense. I think consistency is the part we are currently missing. The biggest gain was less conflict at home, not just better marks. We are in Thiruvananthapuram, so local logistics may be a little different.
3on How do you explain accommodations to grandparents who think it is 'special treatment'?
This is close to what my spouse is suggesting too. I may have been overcomplicating it. We learned to ask who is responsible for each support, not only what is written in policy. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
3on How do you explain accommodations to grandparents who think it is 'special treatment'?
Can I ask roughly what age/class your child was when you tried this? A review date helped us avoid treating any support as permanent by default. We made the change gradually rather than all at once.
This is useful, thank you. The practical detail is exactly what I was looking for. The teacher-child fit mattered more than the brand name for us. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.