Pregnant and tired, and my 4 year old still wants to be carried everywhere

We're in Pune too. With our grandson at that age the rule was 'Dadu carries, Mummy holds hands'. He accepted it because it was a rule, not because anyone explained it. Is there a grandparent or your partner who can take over the carrying for now?

When our younger son was on the way, our elder was about the same age. What helped was a small replacement rather than a refusal: 'I can't carry you, but you can choose. Hold my hand, or ride in the trolley.' The choice mattered more than the options. It worked most days. At 6 pm on the stairs, perhaps half the time.

OB here, and also did this myself with an 8 yr old and a bump. what i tell patients and what i did at home were different 🤷 i'd sit on the bottom stair, let her climb into my lap for a minute, then we walked up together. it's the closeness she wants more than the lift. a little ritual at the stairs, not a speech

My son is 2 and I carry him everywhere. If I get pregnant again I don't know what I will do, everybody says don't lift. My mother says the child will understand slowly. I will read the answers here.

One thing that worked for us when my son was about that age: give her a job at the bottom of the stairs, something small to carry up for you. My son carried my keys up three floors for months and felt very important. It does get easier ❤️