Our class 10 daughter wants the guest room for herself. My in-laws use it three months a year

ivory_pebble_106021 Jun 2026

Right now she shares with her brother. He's 9, she's in class 10, and it isn't working for either of them. The third bedroom is the 'guest room', which mostly means my in-laws' room when they come for the winter. She has asked to move in properly. Her argument is good: it's empty nine months a year and her boards are this year. My partner thinks his parents will feel pushed out if it becomes her room with their things in one cupboard. Anyone done this shuffle with grandparents who visit for long stretches? What happened when they came? 🤷

4 comments

cinnamon_sandal_789921 Jun 2026
We did exactly this. Pedda ammayi got the guest room last year, and when ammamma and thatha come she moves in with the little one for those weeks. She grumbles, but she agreed to it before she got the room. That was the key. Make the deal before the move 😊
lemon_veranda_408121 Jun 2026
We don't have a guest room at all, so when the grandparents visit, the girls move in with us. Different problem, but one thing carries over: ask the grandparents themselves instead of guessing how they'll feel. My father-in-law surprised us by saying he'd rather have the study with the sofa-cum-bed than the girls' room. Your in-laws may be less attached to that room than your partner expects.
cobalt_pigeon_506922 Jun 2026
Could the cupboard stay theirs? If their things have a fixed place in the room, it still feels partly theirs when they come, even with your daughter's desk in it. She'd have to study at the dining table during their visit, though, and that's not ideal in a board year.
silver_drum_470324 Jun 2026
a board year is her strongest argument. the in-laws come in winter, which is also prelims season. i'd work out where she studies in december first, the room is secondary
- pebble_wave_485325 Jun 2026
  Speaking as a son rather than a parent: when my parents visit us for a few weeks, what bothers them is being treated like guests, not which room they get. A cupboard of their own and their routine left alone matter more to them than the bed.