She's been with us since our son was three months old and she's good with him. Yesterday she said she'd like more from next month, because the work has grown now that he's awake longer and she's also making his food. That's true. I have no reference point. Do people tie it to the work added, a fixed yearly increase, or both?
We use a daycare, so I can only tell you how they handle it: a fixed annual revision, announced in advance, and separate charges for anything extra. That separation seems sensible for a caregiver too, though I have not employed one myself.
We did both. A yearly increase at the start of the year, and a separate amount when the job genuinely changed, which for us was when our younger one started solids and needed her own meals cooked. Keeping them separate meant the yearly one didn't turn into a negotiation every time something shifted.
years back when ours were small we had a nanny before daycare. she asked at 3 months too. we said yes to part of it and promised a review at 6 months. kept the review. she stayed till we moved them to daycare
The review date is the important part. We had a helper who stayed with us for nine years, and I think it was because every raise came with a conversation about what the job now was, not just a number.
no nanny here, relatives help sometimes. but my mother always asked her helper what the increase was for, in her own words. often it was her kids' school fees. changed how my parents looked at it
Our daughter is a teenager now, but the akka who looked after her as a baby still visits every Sankranti. What I remember is that we never haggled. Paid a little above what others paid and she gave us her best for years 🙂
Just seeing this. We went through the same at four months with our little one. We matched the extra work she'd taken on, put it in a message so we both had it, and set a date to look at it again. Hope it worked out ❤️
Putting it in a message is a good point. We did the same with our part-time cook, and having it written down avoided a disagreement later about what was included.
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