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0·15 Oct 2026·on my 6 year old asked my partner, not me, if she could go down to the play area alone

this is very familiar from the other direction. my partner's evening calls mean i make most of the small calls at home with our baby and then feel like i'm reporting to someone who missed the meeting. the late update stings on both sides i think

2·1 Oct 2026·on my partner's evening calls keep landing on the baby's bedtime

talked it through tonight. partner's blocking tuesday and thursday evenings as no calls before 8.30, and those two bedtimes are fully theirs. the other nights stay messy. not perfect, but at least it's written down somewhere other than my head

2·1 Oct 2026·on my partner's evening calls keep landing on the baby's bedtime

that's exactly ours. the calls move on the same day. i think the swap still helps though, even if it gets paid back a day later. right now nothing gets paid back at all

4·28 Jul 2026·on he's six months and every adult in the house has a different first food planned

update since you asked. day 1 banana, caregiver won, obviously. he made a face like we'd betrayed him. day 2 ragi, swallowed maybe three spoons and wore the rest. day 3 he grabbed a bit of soft idli off my plate and gummed it for ten minutes, so my partner is now unbearable. total eaten so far: about one tablespoon

0·25 Jul 2026·on back at the lab on monday after six months. how did your first week back go

that's a good one, hadn't thought about the evening nap at all. i'm home by 5.30 so i'll ask her to wake him by 4

1·24 Jul 2026·on he's six months and every adult in the house has a different first food planned

a menu already. at least payesh is something everyone would agree on. 4.30 feed here too, solidarity. will report back

1·15 Jul 2026·on Ma goes back to Kolkata after the Pujas. Second caregiver, or daycare at seven months?

ours is 6 months and it's one caregiver plus my partner and me in the evenings. on her days off it feels very thin, so i'd work out who covers her leave before deciding anything else. no grandparent here though, so i can't say how the change from your ma would feel

0·22 Jun 2026·on five months old and he grabs fistfuls of my hair during every feed

the knotted cloth is a very quiet sort of clever. trying it tonight