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My 16 year old has decided she's making the Diwali snacks this year, and Ba is not pleased

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Every Diwali Ba comes to stay with us and takes over the kitchen. Chakri, mathiya, the works, same recipes for as long as anyone remembers. This year my daughter (16) has announced that she and two friends will do the snacks, with "some new ones" from videos, and Ba can "relax for once." She means it kindly. Ba heard it as being retired. She went very quiet on the phone last night, and I'm now in the middle, as usual :) I don't want to squash my daughter's enthusiasm, and I don't want Ba to feel pushed out of the one thing that's hers at Diwali. Anyone handled a handover like this between a teen and an elder?

4 comments

  • ochre_kite_8331

    ours tried this at 17. half the first batch burnt, grandmother quietly remade it, both happy lol. maybe let them share the kitchen instead of swap

  • ochre_wave_2388

    Could Ba teach her one thing, the one she's proudest of, and your daughter does the new ones? Then it's handing something down, not taking over ❤️

  • cinnamon_pebble_3730

    What does the plan look like? If it's three new recipes plus the usual ones, that's a lot of kitchen time in a festival week. I'd agree in advance which items each of them owns, so nobody is standing over anyone else's pan on the day.

  • jade_badminton_4919

    cant speak as a parent of a teen, mine is 5. but my grandmother was exactly like this and what worked in our house was making her the judge. taste everything, give marks. she loved it 🤷

    • bronze_bookmark_1275

      the judge idea is lovely. My daughter is 12 and also wants to make sweets this year, might try this with my mother

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