Two weeks back at work. My partner is still on leave and does all the nights. Caregiver comes 10 to 7. On weeknights I sleep in the other room 'so one of us is functional', which was my partner's idea, not mine. I feel like a lodger in my own house. Should I take one feed anyway, say the 11 pm bottle, even if it costs me some sleep?
We did exactly the lodger setup for the first month and I hated it. Now I do the 10.30 bottle and go to bed, partner does the rest. I'm tired at work but I know my kid's face at night, if that makes sense.
Fifteen years ago I did nothing at night and I still hear about it. Take one feed.
When our daughter was born I was posted away and my better half did all of it. When our son came I was home and took the early morning feed before PT. You will function. A couple of months of broken sleep is not what wears a couple down. Resentment is.
Ask your partner if it was really their idea or just the polite thing to say. That changes the answer.
We split it by weekends instead. Weeknights the working parent slept, Friday and Saturday nights were fully mine. Clear rule, fewer negotiations at 2 am.
Up at 3.30 on an incident call writing this, so I'm hardly one to talk about sleep. With our second I took the 11 pm feed, and it's the one I remember most fondly. Quiet house, just the two of us.
also awake. it's the 4 am one and my partner is asleep. so i suppose i've started.
This made me smile. Try and get back to sleep after ♥
on call so awake too lol. take the feed. people operate on less sleep than that, i'd know
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