Pregnancy & Newborn

Second pregnancy, and my partner travels most weeks. When did the work trips stop for you?

lilac_sketch_3401

Every article says the partner should 'stay close to home in the final weeks', which isn't much use when my partner's consulting work is planned a quarter ahead. With our daughter the trips simply stopped at some point and I can't remember when. This time there's also a 4 year old to get to preschool every morning, so it isn't only about the birth. For those who've done this with an older child at home, what did the ordinary arrangement look like? Did travel stop in a particular month, or did you keep a nearby backup and let it run longer?

4 comments

  • amber_gecko_4073

    Our daughter is seven months now. My partner teaches so travel wasn't an issue, but my amma came to stay from the last month. What helped more than any rule was having one person who could get me to the hospital in twenty minutes at night. Whether that's the partner or not matters less than you'd think 🙂

  • sage_drum_6121

    Sort the backup question before the travel one. Who takes your daughter if you have to go in at 3 am? Once that person exists, the travel cut-off can be later. With my one there was no older child to think about, so I'm no use on that part 😄

    • lilac_sketch_3401

      That's fair, the 3 am person is the real gap. My parents are a flight away and my partner's are not up to night driving. I may need a neighbour arrangement, at least for the preschool mornings.

    • sage_paper_496

      agree. second time round the birth was the easy bit to plan. my elder's school mornings were what fell apart. we ended up with a list of three people who could do the drop at short notice and used all three

  • willow_window_9575

    When my son was born I was posted out of station and reached three days later. Times were different. Plan for at least the last month, and make sure someone close by can drive at night.

  • willow_lantern_8550

    Ours stopped 6 weeks before. Baby came 5 weeks early 😂 Go earlier than you think

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