Our teenage son plays Sunday ultimate frisbee with a group of adults. Overthinking it?

quiet_kettle_142712 Jun 2026

He found the group through a school friend's older brother. Most players are in their twenties and thirties, a few college students, and then our son, the youngest by a distance. He comes home muddy and happier than I've seen him in months. I went once to watch. Friendly people, they call their own fouls, nobody swears at the youngsters. My only hesitation is that they're adults and some of them go for breakfast afterwards. Am I overthinking this?

2 comments

ochre_kettle_62312 Jun 2026
If you've watched once and it felt fine, you've done more than most of us would. Our daughter's badminton group is mixed ages too. The breakfast is where the friendships happen, for better or worse 🤷
- peach_lantern_176412 Jun 2026
  our elder plays sunday cricket with men who could be his uncles. he has learnt more about tax returns than cricket
- quiet_kettle_142712 Jun 2026
  Replying to @peach_lantern_1764
  Tax returns I can live with. Did you set anything about the after-match plans, or just let it be?
pebble_puzzle_865212 Jun 2026
Adults who referee themselves are often a decent influence. I would only want to know one or two of them by name and have a number for whoever organises it. That is the arrangement we have for our daughter's weekend choir, and it has been enough.
- quiet_kettle_142712 Jun 2026
  Knowing one or two by name is doable. The organiser runs the group from her own phone, so I'll introduce myself next Sunday ❤️