I made a class 10 study plan for my daughter. She has asked me to delete it

dusk_paper_44295 Jun 2026

Our daughter has started class 10. Over the holidays I put together a spreadsheet: chapters by subject, rough weightage, weekly targets until the pre-boards. I was rather pleased with it. I showed it to her yesterday and she said, politely, that she would prefer I delete it. She is not careless about her studies, and she says she will make her own plan in the first week after reopening. I believe she will make one. I am less sure it will last the year. Should I hand mine over and step back, keep it to myself as a reference, or insist we use something like it together?

6 comments

cobalt_spoon_26325 Jun 2026
I have a 9 year old, and even she rejects my plans when I'm the one who made them. The moment it's her sheet she defends it like a lawyer. I suspect your spreadsheet is fine and the problem is whose name is on it :)
jade_trail_12825 Jun 2026
ha. delete it in front of her. keep a copy
moss_rickshaw_89685 Jun 2026
Same year for my son. I tried the opposite of what you did: I gave him a blank weekly sheet with only the exam dates and portions filled in, and asked him to fill in the rest. It's not as detailed as I would have made it. But he fills it in every Sunday, which is more than he did with anything I wrote for him in class 9. On Sunday evening I look at it with him for ten minutes, no more.
quiet_kettle_94605 Jun 2026
Mine is younger, but the same thing happens with any schedule I make. What worked a little for us was giving choices instead of a plan. "Science on Tuesday or Wednesday?" He feels he decided. Your spreadsheet could be the menu she picks from ❤️
umber_bookmark_88665 Jun 2026
I coordinate the senior classes at a school, and the board-year plans that get followed there are the ones students write in their own hand, even when they're worse than the teacher's version. What helps them most from a parent is the weightage and the dates, not the hours. If your sheet has those, offer it as a reference and let her copy whatever she wants from it.
apricot_pebble_8425 Jun 2026
Did she say what she objects to? It might be the targets, the level of detail, or simply that you made it. Those need different responses. My son is 13, so I am reasoning rather than speaking from experience, but when he refused my revision plan last year it turned out the weekly targets felt like being marked at home.