How do you stop relatives kissing a one month old on the face?

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Visitors have started coming now that he's a month old, and almost every one picks him up and kisses his cheeks, sometimes his hands, which then go straight into his mouth. I mentioned it to one aunt and the room went quiet. My partner says just tell them the doctor said so. Our paediatrician did say to keep handling to a minimum for now, but I'd still like a way of saying it that doesn't make every visit awkward. How have you put this to elders without starting something?

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  • orchid_bookmark_6829

    Same stage here, same problem. We keep him swaddled and hand him over feet first, so his face only gets near the person if they bend right down. Most don't bother. Not perfect, but nobody has been offended yet.

  • fern_moon_1255

    Thirteen years ago my athamma solved this for us without being asked. Anyone who went for the baby's face got 'arey, dishti tagulutundi' and a gentle push away. Nobody argues with dishti 😊 If you have one elder on your side, let them say it. It lands very differently coming from them.

  • quiet_hammock_9324

    Carrier or wrap when visitors are expected. If he's on you, people admire from a distance. Worked better for us than asking.

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