ptm day. the teacher mentioned a science test 'she must have shown you'. she hadn't. came home and found that one plus two more, folded inside a notebook. 9/25, 11/25, and a 17/25 she could easily have shown, which is the strange part we're not shouting parents. or i thought we weren't. not sure what to say to her that doesn't just make the next one go deeper into the cupboard
The 17 being hidden too tells you it's not about the marks. Mine hides things when she expects a long conversation, not an angry one. Short is what she wants.
I'd go easy on the 'we're not shouting parents' part. My son once told me the sigh was worse than shouting. Took me a while to believe him.
Up after a night case, reading this. Our school wants every test paper signed by a parent, so hiding isn't really possible, but my daughter still 'forgets' them in her bag for a few days. What helped a little: she brings it, I look, I sign, and we talk about it the next day, not that evening.
something my sister said years later, about doing the same thing at 12: she wanted to fix it before anyone saw. maybe ask her what she was planning to do with them? she probably had a plan. a bad one, but a plan
hadn't thought of asking what she meant to do with them. will try tonight, on a walk, not at the table
The 'she probably had a plan' line stayed with me. My son is 8 and he shows us everything for now, with commentary. Good to know what to listen for later.
update. asked on a walk. the plan was to do well in the next test and show us all of them together so the average looked ok. she had calculated the average. we laughed, then talked properly. yesterday she showed me a geography test without being asked
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calculated the average. future statistician. glad it went well
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