Most advice is well-intended, but being corrected in front of the child makes things harder. I want to keep family relationships warm while making it clear that final parenting decisions are ours. What has worked for you?
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. Our child reacted better once we explained the change in advance instead of announcing it on the day.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. We are still not perfect at this, but the arguments are much shorter now. We are in Kochi, so local logistics may be a little different.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. Discussing it away from the children reduced the back-and-forth. We made the change gradually rather than all at once.
That is reassuring. We are trying to avoid making this a bigger issue than it needs to be. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and relaxed about smaller differences. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
That makes sense. I think consistency is the part we are currently missing. A little predictable one-to-one time changed the mood more than we expected. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
Replying to @ramesh_iyer
This is helpful for us too. A little predictable one-to-one time changed the mood more than we expected. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
Thanks for saying this. Online advice often makes normal family life sound much more organised than it really is. The rule became easier once all adults used the same answer. We are in Hyderabad, so local logistics may be a little different.
Replying to @eo9470
Understood. I will check this before we decide. A little predictable one-to-one time changed the mood more than we expected. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
We try to discuss disagreements away from the children and present one answer. We are not always successful, but it stopped the 'ask the other parent' loop. A little predictable one-to-one time changed the mood more than we expected. We made the change gradually rather than all at once.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. Discussing it away from the children reduced the back-and-forth. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. The biggest surprise was that the practical routine mattered more than the option that looked best on paper.
Thank you. I like that this does not require changing everything at once. A little predictable one-to-one time changed the mood more than we expected. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
Replying to @ed3892
That sounds manageable. Discussing it away from the children reduced the back-and-forth. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. Discussing it away from the children reduced the back-and-forth. We are in Delhi, so local logistics may be a little different.
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I agree with this. Once we reduced the number of moving parts, everyone became calmer. We are still not perfect at this, but the arguments are much shorter now. We made the change gradually rather than all at once.
This is useful, thank you. The practical detail is exactly what I was looking for. We are still not perfect at this, but the arguments are much shorter now. In our house, the practical routine mattered more than the ideal plan.
That is reassuring. We are trying to avoid making this a bigger issue than it needs to be. We are still not perfect at this, but the arguments are much shorter now. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.