My 15 year old opens up at 10 pm. I'm usually asleep by then

citrus_veranda_25795 Aug 2026

Theatre lists start early, so I'm in bed by 9.30 most weeknights. My daughter has always been a night person, and lately that's when she wants to talk. Friends, school, the swim coach, all of it, around 10. Twice this week she knocked when I was already half asleep. Both times I got a 'never mind, go back to sleep'. Weekends are fine, but by then whatever it was has passed. Anyone with a teen and a job that starts at dawn figured this out? 🤷

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violet_bookmark_83065 Aug 2026
Mine are much younger, so weigh this accordingly. My son only talks properly in the car on the way to his Saturday class, never when I ask at dinner. I've stopped fighting it and drive him even when my partner could. Is there a fixed slot in your week, even a short one, where she knows you're awake and free? The 10 pm talks might move there, at least partly.
- jade_pigeon_53115 Aug 2026
  The car is so true. Mine is 12 and it's the car or nothing. For the 10 pm problem, maybe she leaves a note or a voice message when you're asleep and you pick it up at breakfast? Not the same thing, but she'd know it reached you ❤️