Every visitor says our 2 month old looks thin. His weight is fine

ivory_sandal_244914 Apr 2026

He's on his curve, he feeds well, he's gaining what he should. I spend my working day plotting babies on growth charts, so I do know this. And still, after the fourth relative this week held him up and said 'so thin, is he getting enough?', I caught myself checking his thighs at 1 am. How do you stop it getting into your head? And what do you say back that ends the conversation without turning into a lecture? My partner has started saying 'he takes after his father', which is not the compliment my partner thinks it is.

4 comments

fern_sketch_144714 Apr 2026
With our daughter it was 'so small'. What worked was one stock line that everyone in the house used: 'The doctor is happy with her.' Nobody argues with that. In your case it would be slightly funny, but it still works.
lilac_kettle_956914 Apr 2026
My mother still lifts ours like a bag of rice every evening to 'check'. I've stopped arguing. Nanamma logic doesn't run on charts.
mellow_rain_907214 Apr 2026
Our daughter was 'thin' for fourteen years according to every aunt. She is now taller than both of us. The comments did not stop at the baby stage, so it is worth having an answer you are comfortable repeating for a long time.
- ivory_sandal_244914 Apr 2026
  That's reassuring and terrifying in equal parts. Writing this from the duty room. Apparently he's also thin in my absence; my mother sent a message at ten asking if he'd been fed.
coral_puzzle_555515 Apr 2026
What helped me was to stop explaining. Every explanation invited a second opinion. 'He's doing well, thank you,' and then a change of subject.