Daughter has asked me to stop sending her marks to the family group

indigo_trail_404110 Jul 2026

Every time her test results come, I post them in our family WhatsApp group. Grandparents, aunts, the cousins in the US, everyone. Ammamma replies with ten blessings and the uncles send thumbs up. I thought she liked it. Yesterday she said, very calmly, that she'd prefer I stopped. Not angry, just 'they're my marks, Nanna'. She's 16. I'm not hurt. Okay, maybe a little. But the grandparents will ask why the updates stopped. What do I tell them? And do I share anything at all now, or only what she approves? 🙂

3 comments

monsoon_guava_663410 Jul 2026
My parents did this with every rank I got, and I hated it by fifteen. Once the marks are on a group, nobody asks what's underneath them. My daughter is little and I've already stopped posting her reading level for that reason. Your daughter asking calmly is a good sign.
- indigo_trail_404111 Jul 2026
  Fair. 'Nobody asks what's underneath them', that line landed. I'll tell Ammamma she can ask her directly. She'll like getting a call more than a message anyway.
- pebble_puzzle_414215 Jul 2026
  Replying to @indigo_trail_4041
  We did exactly this a few months back. Ba now calls our daughter every Sunday to 'check on studies', and they mostly talk about recipes. Better deal for everyone 🙂
mango_bottle_405610 Jul 2026
This is coming for us too, I can feel it. My son already winces when I forward his certificates. Maybe ask her what she's fine with you sharing. Some kids are okay with 'she did well' but not the numbers.
jade_pigeon_531110 Jul 2026
It's lovely that she told you calmly instead of quietly leaving the group ❤️ For the grandparents, something general like 'she's working hard and the exams went well' is honest and will keep them happy.