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11 year old wants to grow his hair long. The school wants it above the collar

moss_lantern_7110

He's been asking since the summer holidays. Wants it long enough to tie back, like a footballer he follows. I don't mind at all. The school diary says boys' hair should be short and neat, above the collar, and he's already had one note home this month for 'untidy hair'. His plan is to grow it anyway and 'see what they do'. My plan was to stay out of it, but I'm the one who signs the diary. Do I back him, or tell him school rules are school rules and he can grow it in the holidays?

4 comments

  • olive_tiffin_4941

    Back him on what exactly? Growing it out against a written rule means notes every week, and you're the one signing them. Decide if you're fine with that first.

    • moss_lantern_7110

      fair. i'm fine with the notes. less fine with him being left out of the class photo, which is apparently the next threat.

  • banyan_tiffin_86

    We're only at class 1 and already argue over the haircut every month. I have no answer for 11, just sympathy.

  • sage_quilt_5474

    Our son tried this last year. We let him, the notes kept coming, and in the end he cut it himself before the class photo. I think it mattered to him that the decision was his, not ours. The cost was two months of me writing apologies in the diary.

  • pebble_puzzle_4142

    Arre, let him try. My daughter fought the 'two plaits only' rule for a whole year in class 7. Lost, of course, but she still talks about it like a war she's proud of 😊

    • citrus_moon_1335

      Our older one went to war over the earrings rule. Now the 3 yr old wants to have 'rule fights' too. No idea what she thinks they are.

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