We keep undermining each other in small ways and now our child asks each parent separately until someone says yes. How do couples get aligned on rules without discussing every tiny decision in front of the child? I am trying to decide this week, so practical details would help more than general pros and cons.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. My spouse had a different view initially, so we tried it for a few weeks before deciding. We are still not perfect at this, but the arguments are much shorter now. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
We tried something similar once, but probably gave up too early. How long did you continue before judging it? The rule became easier once all adults used the same answer. We are in Chennai, so local logistics may be a little different.
A small amount of one-to-one time reduced sibling competition more than buying duplicate toys ever did in our house. The biggest surprise was that the practical routine mattered more than the option that looked best on paper.
Thanks for saying this. Online advice often makes normal family life sound much more organised than it really is. The rule became easier once all adults used the same answer. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
With grandparents, specific rules worked better than a long parenting philosophy. We picked the two boundaries that mattered most and let smaller things go. My spouse had a different view initially, so we tried it for a few weeks before deciding. We are still not perfect at this, but the arguments are much shorter now. We made the change gradually rather than all at once.
Thank you. I like that this does not require changing everything at once. We are still not perfect at this, but the arguments are much shorter now. We are in Chennai, so local logistics may be a little different.