Late calls three nights a week, and now he only settles for my partner

indigo_camera_905629 Aug 2026

My US calls run from about 8 to 10 on Mondays, Tuesdays and Thursdays, so my partner does bedtime on those nights. For the last few weeks, when I try to put him down on my free nights he arches back and cries until my partner takes him. Asleep in five minutes after that 🤷 I know it's not personal, he's not even one. It still stings. Do I keep trying on my nights, or let my partner keep bedtime and take mornings instead? Does it usually swing back on its own?

2 comments

violet_wave_591229 Aug 2026
happened with my son around the same age, he'd only go down for my partner. lasted maybe two months and swapped back without us doing anything. i kept doing the bath and let the last bit go
cobalt_paper_128930 Aug 2026
Our daughter did this around one, with me as the rejected parent. What helped was that we stopped alternating nights and each took a fixed part of the routine. I did the bath and the story every night, even when I couldn't do the actual putting down. Took the pressure off both of us. These days she wants only me for homework, so it evens out 😊