If my 13 year old's phone goes off at 9.30, will he miss homework updates in the class group

willow_violin_5024

My elder son is 13 and his class has a student-only group chat. It is useful in theory: who has the worksheet, what page the maths homework is, which day the project is due. In practice it also runs till past 11 with jokes and stickers, and he keeps checking it in bed. I want a fixed time where the phone goes out of his room, probably 9.30. His objection is that the actual homework information sometimes comes late at night, and he will be the one who turns up without it. I would like to know how this works in other homes in the ordinary sense. Does the important information really come late, or is that the argument every 13 year old makes?

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  • teal_sandal_2724

    In our house the useful messages almost always came before 8, when children are actually sitting with their homework. What came after that was mostly the jokes. We checked this once by scrolling back a week with our son, and it was a calmer conversation than arguing about it in general.

    • basil_gecko_5351

      Scrolling back a week together is smart, we did something close to that with my son when he was in 8th. The other thing was that he had one friend he could call in the morning if he really missed something. Happened maybe twice in the whole year, but knowing it was there made him agree.

  • hazel_kettle_5917

    Ours is 11 and not on a group yet, but I am already worried about this one. One thing I have seen a friend do is let the child check the group once at 9.15, then the phone goes to the charger in the hall.

  • velvet_gecko_5468

    she used to say the same thing at 13. honestly some nights the update did come late and she found out in the morning. it wasn't the disaster either of us expected

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