Amma won't let the fan run in the baby's room. It's still 36 outside

The nod and switch-off, I know it well. Our compromise was the fan on low, pointed at the wall, so the air moved but nothing blew on the baby. My mother could live with that because it wasn't 'on her'.

We put a small thermometer on the nursery wall. People argue with us, they don't argue with a number. 31 degrees inside the room ended the debate in one afternoon.

Pick the one thing that matters most to you, probably the fan, and let her win on the rest: the oil, the bath, the cap, whatever else is on her list. It's a few months, and she'll bend more easily once she feels her way is respected somewhere.

Sending sympathy from another sweaty house at 3 am. We kept him in a cotton vest only, no swaddle, and the fan at the other end of the room. My mother-in-law came round once she saw he slept longer. Give it a week ❤️