I get home from nights around 8. She has started laying out a plate for me before her school van comes: half a chapati from her own breakfast, two biscuits and a glass of water. She calls it my dinner. Then she says good night and tells me to sleep properly because patients are waiting. My mother says she has done it every night-shift morning for two weeks. I've started saving my appetite for it.
That is lovely. Mine used to leave notes on my laptop when I travelled for clinic visits, mostly drawings of me in an aeroplane. She's in middle school now and the notes have stopped, so keep a photo of the chapati plate. Do you eat the biscuits too?
the notes stopping is the part nobody warns you about. mine still leaves them but now they're requests. 'pls buy blue chart paper'
Partner does hospital nights too. Ours is too young to serve anything except a wet fist. Showing her this.
Ha, our son serves me nothing, but he does wake us at 5 like it's the middle of his afternoon. If he ever offers me a biscuit for it, all is forgiven.
Give it time. Ours started by handing over a spoon and walking off with it.
Keep going
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