There is no sudden academic drop, but motivation is low and every conversation about school gets an eye-roll. I am trying not to overreact. Did this pass as a phase for your teen, or did you change something about routine or expectations?
Sleep was the first thing we stopped compromising on. A tired teenager studying two extra hours was not actually learning more. My spouse had a different view initially, so we tried it for a few weeks before deciding. Our child responded better when the plan felt partly self-chosen. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
We tried something similar once, but probably gave up too early. How long did you continue before judging it? The stress level at home improved once we focused on two priorities instead of ten. Your child's response may be different, but this was our experience.
Did your child take time to adjust, or was the improvement fairly quick? Our child responded better when the plan felt partly self-chosen. I would still test it for a short period before making a long commitment.
This is useful, thank you. The practical detail is exactly what I was looking for. Our child responded better when the plan felt partly self-chosen. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
Try to keep stream discussions about subjects and daily work, not prestige. 'Would you enjoy doing this kind of work every week?' was a better question for us. Our child responded better when the plan felt partly self-chosen. We only reached that conclusion after trying the other approach first.
The biggest change for us was moving from daily checking to one weekly planning conversation. The child had more ownership, and we still knew what was coming up. Talking to an older student gave us a more realistic picture than brochures did. We made the change gradually rather than all at once.